Sunday, November 16, 2008

Happy Birthday Mamma

Anybody who really knows me, knows that my Mom was the most important person in my life. I never had the best relationship with my Dad, due to a lot of things but mainly because of his struggle with depression (which might have been diagnosed as Bi-polar disorder today but back then it was just generalised as depression). I only recently got to grips with a lot of the issues that I had with my Dad. It`s taken a very long time and I`m still working at it.
My Mom took the part of both mom and dad and did a lot of things with me that was mostly the domain of the dad. She used to throw ball with me, watch sport with me, help me with homework, went to church with me and mostly just loved me. She was my best friend for a big part of my life.

She passed away on the 30th April 2003. I have missed her every single day since then. I have shed many tears and spent many an hour missing the person who laid every foundation of the man I am today.

I have never known anybody who gave more of herself to everybody around her. She would literally give her last cent to make sure that her kids were happy. She gave everything she had to make sure that we were ok. God was very kind when he picked my Mom to look after Monya and I. I thank Him for my Mom every day of my life.

A lot of people have sporting heroes or movie heroes. I do too, I mean you know how I feel about my sport. But, my one true hero is a lady called Maria Dorothea Malherbe. A lady who gave everything she had to make sure her kids grew up knowing that they were loved.

I know my Mom is with Jesus right now. Her rewards for being the person she was is better than any rewards this world had to offer. I know her birthday party is awesome and that her wonderfully warm nature is magnified 100 fold in heaven. But I miss her and I so wish I could spend even a minute with her, just to hold her and tell again how much I love her.

So Mamma, till we meet again, I miss you with all my heart and I love you so very much. Have an awesome birthday...


Woman on a Mission said...

Francois - Bless you so much for sharing your story but also for sharing a part of your mother with us. How wonderful she sounds and how blessed she has made you. As a mom to a little boy, I hope that someday my son loves me half as much as you love your mother. What a blessing you are to her too and I'm sure she couldn't be prouder of the man you've become. Again...thanks for sharing.

jenn3 said...

Awww. Very sad, but so sweet. Thanks for sharing.

Francois said...

Hi Tiffany, thank you so much for your kind words. My Mom was a wonderful lady and I was very privileged to have had her for such a long time. I know you`re an awesome mom and your son is a lucky little boy to have you.

Hi Jenn, thank you very much for popping in and for your kind words.

mom and dad said...

Hi Faf What wonderful words about your mom. I know you miss her terribly and am just sorry we did not have more time to get to know her. But what we had was wonderful.

Love mom and dad

Kevin Davis said...

Very bitter sweet. It is awesome to have people like that in our lives, hurts to have them gone, but at least we had them. Thanks for sharing.

Francois said...

Thanks very much Mom, I know she was so happy to know that I had you guys in my life. I also wish we could`ve spent more time together as an extended family.

Thx Kevin, you`re right, at least we had lots of wonderful years together.

lisa said...

so sweet of you to share memories of your mom with us.
you know how i asked hayley to post stories of growing up, family traditions, whatever, once a month with all of us? well, that goes for you too.
if it doesn't make you too sad, celebrate her life, and plan on a monthly post. i'd love to "get to know" your sister, hear stories about growing up, whatever.
if you didn't know, we may not have met, but we love y'all - you & hayley both. thanks for sharing, francois. and i love the photos. your mom is lovely.
ps - who or what is a Faf?

Francois said...

Hi Lisa, thanks so much for you kind words. I really, really love my Mom to bits. She was a wonderful lady and I was a very lucky boy to get her.

I do get sad sometimes, that`s normal but the memories are of such a kind that I have very few regrets. I know my Mom loved me and I know she knows how much I loved her. Of that I have no doubts.

So I will share more stories of my Mom and my awesome Sister.

Lisa, you can rest assured that you have a very special place in our hearts too. You have made a mighty impact on the Malherbe`s!!

Ps. Faf is my nickname. It`s pronounced Fahf. It`s not a thing, it`s just a shortened version of my name. People are very lazy around here.... :)

Heather Nicole said...

Francois, this was a very nice post for your mom. And I think it is great that you hold her so high and remember her in such wonderful ways. I am sure she is VERY proud of you and Hayley.

Francois said...

Thanks so much Heather, that`s really kind of you.

Keith said...

Francois, this was an amazing post. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.